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Kathy Said:

Can someone help in how to protect myself from this "woman", how to move on and protect myself!!?!!?!?

We Answered:

I sympathize with you...custody battles SUCK! Mine raged on for about 4 years before we were able to work together. Here is my advice:

Take care of yourself. That means, let go of some of this stress. I know as a parent you want to act like a father tiger and protect your young, but there are some things that you just don't have control over. Don't get me wrong...I'm not telling you to give up on the custody battle...not at all. Fight with all you have; but realize that some things are not going to go your way, and just accept it and move on no matter how unfair they seem. Surround yourself with positive people who will make you feel good about yourself and will listen to you when you need to rant and rave.

Secondly, document document document. Take documentation of everything to any mediators or judges involved in your case. If your ex is doing something you don't approve of, state your case reasonably and without blowing your top or getting overly emotional about it, and you will be heard. Keep a journal of your emotions and if appropriate share that with any mediators or judges as well.

Be on time and be respectful for any meetings and appointments. Always treat your ex with respect (even if she doesn't deserve it). This is the hardest thing to do, but think of it like this...That woman is the mother of your child and he loves her. Out of respect for his feelings, treat her as nice as you possibly can. Karma will catch up with her, so don't worry about that.

Think of the money you are sending her as money for your son. Try not to think about what she is spending it on. That money goes to put food in his tummy and a roof over his head, warm pajamas, and fun toys. Trust the mother to take care of your son, because unless her maternal instincts are broken, she will care for him before caring for herself. If she doesn't, then document and discuss with her and if necessary the court.

This is the most difficult thing you will probably do in your lifetime, so make sure that you act in a way that you can be proud of. Your son may be too young to recognize it now, but kids are smart, and he will respect you for your actions as he gets older. Always remember to take the high road!

Good luck and hang in there, it really does get better!

Sandra Said:

Can someone help with a few words in moving on and protecting myself please!??! I'm in dESPERATE NEED OF HELP!?

We Answered:

I would tell you to let your anger aside , leave God to take revenge for you , she cheated on you , deprived you from your child , she is a bad person , she will pay for her wrong doings sooner or later . Calm yourself and let your child with her , start new life and forget about her completely , it is healthier to stay away from the troubles as much as you can unless she doesn't leave you alone , in that case you should fight her back until she stops and you get your rights back .

Bryan Said:

Someone please help with some words or advice in MOVING ON and PROTECTING MYSELF?! HELP in PAINFUL situation!!?

We Answered:

As the father of that child, you do have rights. She legally cannot deny you access to the child. I would suggest hiring an attorney to help you.

Gertrude Said:

What to do in this dreadful situation, Someone HELP ME on how to defend myself and stand up!?!?!?

We Answered:

You need to address the financial issue with your attorney and the emotional toil with a counselor. It really helps to get it out, but now is not a good time to release your feelings with her. You also need to work out a visitation plan so you can see your son. You are his father and you can never be replaced, unless YOU don't make the efforts to see your son.

Gladys Said:

SOmEONE Help, AND HELP ME FIND SOME LIGHT IN THIS? PLEASE!!!!!!?

We Answered:

Keep a journal of her behavior, and make sure you give the DATE that she cheated. She chose to leave. You may be entitled to more custody/less child support, but keep in mind that the child support is to help the kid.

Raul Said:

Can someone help with a few words to get through this TOUGH TIME?! I NEED TO DEFEND MYSELF!!!!?

We Answered:

Unfortunately, theres not much one can say to you so youre probably just going to have to dig deep to survive here. As for your custody battle, unless you can prove shes endangering your child via her life style, theres little chance youll win. Now you can legally stop her fom moving but then with the right evidence she can convince a Judge to over ride you and grant her permission to move which wont be easy but can be done. It sounds like this "older" woman to advantage of you to achieve what she wanted. So just about all you can do here is make her work for what she wants since your going to lose in the end anyway. Sorry, wish I had a better answer but anything can happen nowadays. Good luck

Mario Said:

CAn some please help with a few words, PLEASE!??!?!?!?

We Answered:

Thqat's just awful, I'm sorry that's happened to you. There is no reason you can't get custody of your son, a lot of couples share custody and you can stop her from taking him out of state. Do you have the funds for a lawyer?