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Alan Said:

should i report her for harassment?

We Answered:

no do not let him use the car if you do you will not have a car to come home to.your name is on the title and the loan is in your name so forget him. as you said you worked for yours why should he be handed everything. forget it.as far as him getting to work how about bus, taxi, walking, or catching a ride. don't let them guilt trip you. your brother has had plenty of time to get his butt situated but instead has been having a grand old time.trust me if you agree to this you will get taken to the cleaners. put your car in storage until you get back and nobody but you is to get it out. what you are making is not a lot of money so don't kid yourself and don't let your step mother and brother kid you either.bank your money and take out and send directly to storage facility what you owe them for keeping the car there.you won't have to worry about your car or your brother holding up his end of the bargain and you won't have to listen to well you kept your car here while you were overseas bs.also please note this is coming from some one who knows how things work over there sometimes the mail is delayed and you don't want to have to be worrying about what's going on back home with the car you'll have enough to worry about. I'm with you let him earn it nobody held your hand why should he be babied. do this and stay safe over there.

Paul Said:

I cant stand working with my mom! Advice from anyone in the same situation?

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You got it: She's nuts. Your mother has some serious mental problems, and -- this is the important part -- THEY ARE NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. I'm not yelling at you like your mother...just want to make sure it gets through:

YOUR MOTHER IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.

And from where I sit, it looks like sticking with this job "for the money" is wa-a-ay not worth it. There are so many other, healthier ways to earn some extra cash.

So, you asked for advice, and here it is:

1. Dump this job. Like yesterday. Dump it completely. If there is something you have to finish up so as not to inconvenience a customer, do so. But be sure to finish it up, and when it is done, walk away completely. Do not agree to come in "just for the weekend," or "just to cover for me while I..." or any crap like that.

2. Dump your mother. Like yesterday. Dump her completely. She is a toxic woman. You wouldn't hang around an asbestos room coated with lead paint, would you? Why hang around a toxic woman? This person gave birth to you; she is your mother, but she is not your "mom." There is no "relationship" with a person like this. There is only a great sucking dry of every last drop of emotional strength you have.

Don't take phone calls from her. Don't let her in your house. Don't visit her. If she is at family functions where you are, acknowledge her politely, then say, "I'm sorry, I can't talk right now," and go find somebody else to talk to. Don't answer emails. Don't "send messages" to her through a third party. As much as possible, don't even talk about her with other people -- just shrug your shoulders and say, "That's not my concern. Isn't this great wine?" (or whatever -- have a preselected subject ready to change to).

Should any of her crap get through to you--she has no money, she's sick, she has terrible bills to pay, nobody loves her, whatever, ignore it. Repeat the "That's not my concern" line. If you want to look a little nicer doing so, say, "I'm sorry for her, but that's not my concern."

Your mother's problems are lifelong for her; they did not pop up after you were born, or because you were born. She has always been like this. It's a pity, but there is absolutely nothing you can do to make her life better. Even being there for her to rag on is not making her life better.

So get yourself out, and stay out. And good luck. This is a tough situation in so many ways. But please save yourself. Your mother cannot be saved.

Eva Said:

The following payments and receipts are related to land, land improvements, and building acquired for use i?

We Answered:

I'm sorry is there a question in here? What's your question or are you just listing this stuff? If this is homework you're in the wrong section.

Jose Said:

Should i let my brother use my car while im away?

We Answered:

What a can of worms your Dad & Stepmom want to open up. To let your Brother use your car while you are gone is plain crazy, and it does not matter what kind of a contract you have him sign. Who is going to enforce the contract. Dad and Stepmom will just say, "oh come on now, he has had a hard time and you have done so well, why do you want to make it hard for him."

I could give you a thousand reasons not to do it but here is the big one. You will end up on the short end of the stick. If Dad and Stepmom think it is such a good idea, have them buy the car from you and they can lend it to him. You can always get another one when you get back.

If they don't want to do that, sell it before you leave. Whatever you do, do not, and I repeat, do not leave it at their place. Even if you have to pay storage for it someplace else. It will be a wreck before you get back, and I can guarantee you, it won't be fully insured.

I spent three years in service and was sending money home every month to be put in savings for me so that when I got out I would have a bankroll to start civilian life with. They gave it to my older Brother who was having drinking problems. I never saw any of it.

I have a hard time understanding why your Dad and Stepmom would want you to do this. I'm sure they love your Brother, but they also know what he has accomplished so far in life.

In summation, if you do what I advise, yes, there will be hard feelings, but believe me, if you do what they want, there will be many more that way and your the man who will take the brunt of it. Life can be a ***** sometimes but roll with the punches and I wish you the best in your deployment and in your live. Take care young man.